Sex & Relationships

Nearing 30 And Single, I Decided To Date 4 Men From My Past. Here's How It Went.

I’ve lived in New York for nearly 10 years, meaning many random men have my phone number. But I prided myself on having met a lot of eligible bachelors; I started to wonder if I had met them at the wrong time, after four years of being off-market.

Love at first lust: A young writer explores a lasting love denied… or is that deferred?

Jared’s profile read 34 years old, six foot one, and muscular. As he opened the door, I saw an honest person. I didn’t fall in love with him immediately, but every visual detail indicated that I could. He looked beautiful in the most masculine ways: broad shoulders, full hair, a confident presence, immaculate posture and a seductive half-smile. At 19, I didn’t understand love—I usually hid from it—but I could still pick it out of a lineup. “He’s the one,” I thought immediately.

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What It’s Like To Be a Quadruplet

Our lives began in the Colombian capital of Bogotá simultaneously, my heart beating to the same rhythm as three others. The media celebrated the birth of my brothers and me in 1994 as if it were a miracle. It's weird to receive praise for just being born, but newspapers and magazines printed the news as such: "The first quadruplets safely delivered in 30 years."

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Once I Came Out, Dating Suddenly Became So Hot... And Complicated

Now, it appeared to me that gay men would rather entertain sex without chemistry than the grueling burden of getting to know each other. This was new for me. Being closeted had made my pursuits of vaginal intercourse gradual, to say the least. Usually, a girl would have to throw herself on top of me. I never felt like I had the option to say no then, and to a certain extent, I didn't now.

I wasn’t opposed to casual sex, but I wanted romance, too. I craved everything: the white picket fence with a sex swing inside the house.

My Partner and I Were In A Throuple With Alcohol

I cut my first date with Brandon short, rushing off to an editor’s birthday dinner and a New York Fashion Week after-party. So imagine my shock when I woke up in his bed, with no memory of how I’d gotten there. Feeling disoriented, I hastily made my exit.

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I met a female sex writer on a trip, and we decided to take a bath together.

The energy exuding from our bodies wasn't sexual but embodied the innocence of children running naked in a field holding hands. I connected with Kayla on a deeper level because we shared such an intimate setting together.

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My ex-lover turned to me for dating advice with his new boyfriend.

Most gay men would agree that the bedroom is not just where the magic happens; it's where lifelong friendships are made. While it may not be as common for straight people, it's normal for gay men to become friends after sleeping together; two bodies rubbing against each other is often a prelude to future interactions — whether that's dating, keeping it platonic, or something in between.

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As a gay man, I partied with only queer women for the first time. It changed the way I act in gay spaces.

I watched Monica affix black tape "X's" to her nipples and don a translucent crop top that showcased her arm tattoos of a tiger and a snake. I realized that my appreciation for her body art — rather than her breasts — was yet another confirmation of my homosexuality.

"Will there be cute guys tonight?" I asked hopefully.

Monica, applying pink eyeshadow, responded matter-of-factly. "It is a lesbian party.'"

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Investigating the Who and Why of Body Hair

Some cultural norms are so deeply rooted that it feels like they've always been the law of the land. However, America's obsession with body hair—or the lack thereof for women—didn't begin until the 1920s. During this time, sleeveless dresses became popular and magazine ads began targeting women, selling them the importance of getting rid of unsightly underarm and leg hair.

A few years later, a booming industry took root. Fast forward to today, and the global hair removal products market size is

I've planned over 200 proposals. Here are 5 mistakes to avoid when planning to get down on one knee.

I've witnessed hundreds of women — and some men — say yes when the love of their life got down on one knee. My first adult job was helping plan picture-perfect proposals for Paparazzi Proposals. The company was popularized on "Shark Tank."

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It was my job to help people plan proposals for 3 years. Here's how to know when you're ready — and when you're not.

I'll never forget when a client called my former job at Paparazzi Proposals to help plan his engagement proposal — for the second time. "To someone else," he clarified. I wasn't sure whether to apologize or congratulate him. Despite dealing with hundreds of hopeful fiancés, it was my first time with a repeat customer.

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After my friend died in high school, her parents became my 2nd family. Many didn't understand our relationship.

• The death of my best friend permanently bonded me to her family, even when my own didn't understand.
• Her family helped me channel my grief into action.
• Over a decade after her death, I'm still in touch with her family.

I stopped believing in God, became an alcoholic, returned to God, signed up for a gym membership, and even wrote poetry. I've coped with the death of my best friend in all sorts of ways. Yet she remains simultaneously one of my most cherished and anguished memories, and I'

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I'm a quadruplet. This is how I found my individuality beyond my brothers.

As my high-school principal in Miami read aloud the election results over the PA system, I prepared to share my victory. I could hardly remember any instance from my quadruplet upbringing where three other male bodies didn't crowd my shadow.

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Facetune Might Be the New Way to Catfish

When Paul, 26, studying law at Harvard, invited a date he met on Tinder to a bar in their shared city of Boston, he expected a fellow student. Though she never claimed to be one, her pictures were of a young woman, about his age. When she arrived, he realized this was entirely not the case. His date's youthful glow was absent in person.

I gave up casual sex and dating apps to try and find a deeper connection. It's been almost a year since I've slept with someone.

A lot goes through your mind when you're having sex. Much of it is speculation about what the other nude person in bed with you is thinking, desiring. Maybe you're preoccupied with wishing you would've had time to properly

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Being a third wheel is actually so much fun that I followed my best friend and her boyfriend to Colombia for the summer.

I have always dreamed about traveling the world with the love of my life. Unfortunately, he hasn't yet appeared, so now I'm doing it with my best friend, Camila. OK, to be honest, she had been living her best Julia Roberts "Eat, Pray, Love," expat-style life in Medellín, Colombia, for four months already with her boyfriend, Tyler. But when she suggested I join them in July for the remainder of the summer, I pounced at the opportunity.

A New Yorker's open letter to anyone asking: "Are you OK?" (Poetry)

The city that never sleeps is snoozing indefinitely; however, with most of her inhabitants staying at home, her skyline shines brighter at night.

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Conscious Resettling: Moving Out to Save the Relationship

Distance makes the heart grow fonder...until your partner is seeking to widen the proximity on purpose. Then, you may suddenly be insulted by every inch you're apart.

But what if the distance between you can actually bring you closer together?

I gave up casual sex and dating apps to try and find a deeper connection.

• There's nothing wrong with casual sex, but I realized it's not what I'm looking for right now.
• A year ago I decided I wanted to try to make deeper connections with people.
• Since then, I've stopped having casual sex. I'm still single, but I'm optimistic about my future.

A lot goes through your mind when you're having sex. Much of it is speculation about what the other nude person in bed with you is thinking, desiring. Maybe you're preoccupied with wishing you would've had time to properly

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One more is never enough: Reaching for the trapeze of unrequited love

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How a Kiss Outside of My Relationship Helped Me See a Way Out

In a relationship, there's a constant tug-of-war between reality and idealization. Absolute honesty is often the goal for new couples, but the complicated nuances of life inevitably strike with scenarios requiring little white lies or instances of withholding information. With the aid of time and conflict, dominos eventually fall into the spectrum of deception.

Though my family loves celebrating the holidays at home, we discovered the joy in dining out.

• My mom enjoyed going out all for the holidays, including cooking meals.
• One year she asked my five siblings and me if we'd like to go out for dinner instead.
• She taught us there's no right way to celebrate except by making the most of our time together.

My mother used to carry the magic of the holidays like a human-sized wooden cross on her back. "Making it special" for the family meant she wouldn't experience rest for the days leading up to the new year; every day in December arrived wi

Anyone who has ever had a roommate needs to read this

As a quadruplet, Jamie Valentino prepared for the roommate scene in New York City since the womb. One pandemic later, he was still not ready to spend so much time with his.

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